tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post6078514556172397897..comments2023-09-18T07:16:38.615-05:00Comments on BLissed-Out Grandma: Missing my brotherNancy/BLissed-Out Grandmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17223278142557533175noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-70927547952651461682011-09-27T14:42:35.316-05:002011-09-27T14:42:35.316-05:00This is a wonderful tribute to your brother. Your ...This is a wonderful tribute to your brother. Your love for him shines through. Depression is such a difficult illness. Some people are very good at hiding it and it is hard to help them through. I hope your decision to write about Bruce has been a good one for you. It is a story that should be told.Maryhocamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17594674974875294664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-49702518119082883802011-09-25T09:39:26.879-05:002011-09-25T09:39:26.879-05:00Nancy,
A life documented is remembered. I know th...Nancy,<br /><br />A life documented is remembered. I know the emotional process it takes to write such a post, but let me reassure you, it was so worth it! A lovely way to remember him and cherish your family.Valerie Elkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05480644845944396292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-63795515809520863552011-09-24T18:33:47.387-05:002011-09-24T18:33:47.387-05:00Nancy,
Thank you for telling Bruce's story. I...Nancy, <br />Thank you for telling Bruce's story. It needed to be told and the love and admiration you have for your brother was so evident. I hope writing this article has helped to heal your soul wound and brings some peace for you as well as your family.GeneaDivahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11139846486409117017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-65357550484330105512011-09-24T12:57:43.444-05:002011-09-24T12:57:43.444-05:00Wonderful tribute. Sadness dripping from the post,...Wonderful tribute. Sadness dripping from the post, mixed with pure love. Thank you for sharing. This is a good example of whether a company is devoted to their country on not. <br />BTW thank you for your comment on my blog. I have been bad about blogging and reading. There are those you know that care and you are one of them. <br />: )FranEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00727917499152200255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-11237055484100993082011-09-22T21:09:06.307-05:002011-09-22T21:09:06.307-05:00I could really feel your love in this post. There ...I could really feel your love in this post. There are things people do and we will never really know why. I am an only child and don't understand the sibling bond, but I sure felt it here. *hug*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07630955537691481037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-64082317835264331042011-09-22T13:13:03.739-05:002011-09-22T13:13:03.739-05:00He was a lovely man, and I'm really sorry he&#...He was a lovely man, and I'm really sorry he's gone. Losing a job is right up there with death and divorce. It's a terrible trauma. I just wish he had been able to pull out of the depression, but it sometimes just can't be done. He went way too soon. Thank you for sharing this. I hope you and your family find peace in your hearts. I'm sure he's a peace now. You should take some comfort in that. Really, my most sincere condolences. I lost my brother Michael last year in a single car DUI incident. It breaks your heart. I know.Linda Medranohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03440058568073764902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-23137459580110814602011-09-22T11:45:22.717-05:002011-09-22T11:45:22.717-05:00Well told, Bliss. I can only imagine the confusio...Well told, Bliss. I can only imagine the confusion -- and loss -- your family must've felt upon hearing of his death and how he had lived those last years. Life is harder for some than others, and it's good we know and acknowledge that.<br /><br />PearlPearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261369905176088917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-80468088291351945472011-09-21T15:57:44.858-05:002011-09-21T15:57:44.858-05:00What a wonderful tribute to your brother. You hav...What a wonderful tribute to your brother. You have such great memories of him and will have them forever.Eat To Livehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12851191468716916221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-87416710733980245172011-09-21T11:48:11.585-05:002011-09-21T11:48:11.585-05:00Nancy, you are in my heart today.Nancy, you are in my heart today.Chantelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10324845550553743658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-11255523839708494362011-09-20T21:02:45.876-05:002011-09-20T21:02:45.876-05:00I see from skimming some of the comments that lots...I see from skimming some of the comments that lots of us have a "Bruce" in our lives. We wonder why the self-destructive behavior takes over their lives. We try to help; to advise, to encourage. Sometimes it's not enough.<br /><br />I'm glad his life had value, even if he was not fully aware of it. You've written a nice tribute to keep the memories precious.Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-44259206352172748312011-09-20T12:08:24.031-05:002011-09-20T12:08:24.031-05:00What a lovin' precious tribute to your dear br...What a lovin' precious tribute to your dear brother.<br /><br />It reminds me of my sister who has had several TIA's but continues to eat poorly, drink, smoke and live an unhealthy life. {{{SIGH}}}. She is much younger than I.<br /><br />Thank you so much for putting words to this story.<br /><br />God bless and have a most beautiful day!!! :o)Nezzy (Cow Patty Surprise)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10175389676508928061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-49404401499180862392011-09-20T09:40:47.059-05:002011-09-20T09:40:47.059-05:00He was my big brother. We competed from the day I ...He was my big brother. We competed from the day I was born. Over the years, I spent much more time with him than anyone else in the family, and I was shocked when he died that I hadn't had a clue about how he was doing. We were never going to know what he didn't want us to know. I think he lost more than the rest of us when Mom died. We had wives, children, etc to talk to and cry with. I think Mom's early departure left a bigger hole in Bruce's life than he could ever find a way to fill. <br /> It doesn't surprise me that our jobs have been going overseas. As consumers, we have never said we would pay more for products if they were made in America. Ike was in the White House when that started.<br /> Bruce lost his job, so he also lost his health insurance. Why do we tie health insurance to jobs? I don't really think he would have gone in to see any doctors even if he still had coverage, but he could have had the option.<br /> There is a niece and some nephews who will always remember the "Sea Monster". He is greatly missed.Keithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-2477734450017892942011-09-19T17:44:09.187-05:002011-09-19T17:44:09.187-05:00Thanks for the memories, Nancy. And I love seeing ...Thanks for the memories, Nancy. And I love seeing the old photos too. That's how I remember Bruce - kind, funny, loving but shy and introverted too. I think too, that he made sure we didn't know what was going on. Could we have reached out more? Sure. But I'm not sure he would have welcomed it.<br />I miss him too and will always think of him very fondly.<br />NanetteNanette Stearnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09651548202506026594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-77573606372557864192011-09-19T13:35:25.404-05:002011-09-19T13:35:25.404-05:00He would have turned 60 right? I have a siser in l...He would have turned 60 right? I have a siser in law who turned 60 in june, she had a stroke then kidney cancer, we never were told anything..she works and never talks to us at all, my husbands favorite sister..she does for her kids who are now 40 and 38 and her husband who is 62..she always appears to be happy..but behind that facade is a smoker still, works in a hospital ordering all the food for the place..gambles at bingo weekly and never complains..I don't think depression is ever ever taken seriously at all in our society..She and her husband have the means to retire and take it easy but instead of making her one son 40 really grow up they rescue him all the time..oh, my living God...our nearly 34 works like the dikens and never asks for anything, she tries to spoil us we refuse, but we do vacation together and we get her clothes and spoil her but not with money and rescuing her at every disappointment..not much help can be given if one is unaware of a persons (sibling or others) situation..one brother has ptsd and never asks for anything his siblings don't do one thing to help, he is a gentle person, we spoil him, yet his partner of 20 years passed away and then is when we heard from him thru another relative, he lived in a remote area and we tired to help him come back to civilazation..he is doing great now, but other than my hubby and my self in a huge family we are the only ones to drive almost 100 miles back and forth to see him and make sure he is okay, I call and e-mail him a lot..families are families..Sounds like your brother was a very special, loving and wonderful, you have enormous love and affection for him and the article was I am sure very painful to write, but you alerted others to contact their siblings to make sure they are okay, depression takes the life out of many, my brother in law was a vietnam hero and had ptsd and has had it for many years, got help when we were contacted after his partner of 20 years passed away..thank you for your article, it will help so many families..depression isn't a shame it is a medical and mental problem that can be helped..God bless you in your grief..we know how you feel we really really do..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-69760038352758746222011-09-18T18:08:55.217-05:002011-09-18T18:08:55.217-05:00Hi Nancy, this is a huge piece. Thanks for sharing...Hi Nancy, this is a huge piece. Thanks for sharing it with us. You write of your brother with enormous warmth and affection, and this is how I'm sure he'd like to be remembered. IndigoIndigo Rothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03957870121933442627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-42808997041504844322011-09-18T13:37:43.893-05:002011-09-18T13:37:43.893-05:00Dear Nancy, Thank you for sharing this story of th...Dear Nancy, Thank you for sharing this story of the arc of your bother Bruce's life and for making us aware also of what happens when jobs get shipped to another country.<br /><br /> I am in complete agreement with the comments by Teresa Evangeline and Abraham Lincoln. <br /><br />I found myself holding my breath as I read Bruce's story and now I just feel sad that this is happening all over our country. <br /><br />With your tribute to Bruce, you have awakened my sense of the Oneness that exists between us all.<br /><br />Peace.Dee Readyhttp://www.cominghometomyself.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-19342908319193733312011-09-18T10:18:50.150-05:002011-09-18T10:18:50.150-05:00Bruce sounds like he was a wonderful man who did t...Bruce sounds like he was a wonderful man who did the best he could to live with a series of bad situations. This is a lovely tribute to him, and to your sibling ties. I'm so sorry for your loss - one that I know will always occupy a space in your heart.Deb Shuckahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03439395710731341021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-71627818228917235852011-09-18T08:52:34.834-05:002011-09-18T08:52:34.834-05:00Just imagine how many families have been wrecked b...Just imagine how many families have been wrecked by companies who ship their jobs overseas? It must be awful. I have heard that Obama has been considering taxing the companies on their profits they make overseas. I think that is a must do for him to save the manufacturing in this country. <br /><br />The piece your wrote was very well written, interesting and had just the right tune to it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-43350676840752301322011-09-18T06:26:41.484-05:002011-09-18T06:26:41.484-05:00A well told story and a great tribute to your brot...A well told story and a great tribute to your brother. History does repeat itself and it's beginning to feel like the 30's again. I hope not. When that happens, it's the life changes where people cannot cope. People born into a depression time can cope because they know nothing else. <br /><a href="http://beajayblock.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Manzanita@Wannabuyaduck</a>Manzanitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06467261212623663365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-18467561174658513282011-09-18T05:27:20.774-05:002011-09-18T05:27:20.774-05:00This is a lovely tribute to your brother. As a for...This is a lovely tribute to your brother. As a former psychiatric nurse, your portrayal is also a classic story of a depressed man. How to handle such feelings and reach out for help is another example of how our culture fails men.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-5345347253525149352011-09-18T01:05:11.234-05:002011-09-18T01:05:11.234-05:00I am so sorry Nancy. It is so sad that he could n...I am so sorry Nancy. It is so sad that he could not help himself. Some people do not rebound from setbacks very well.<br />Think good thoughts about your brother now, hopefully writing about him has helped you to put his life and death in their proper place. Savor the good memories:)Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-65564154343502631372011-09-17T20:28:19.628-05:002011-09-17T20:28:19.628-05:00My sympathy to you for the loss of your brother. I...My sympathy to you for the loss of your brother. It's a good thing for you that you've written about Bruce and told him that you loved him and that you did not realize he was suffering. Keep Bruce in your mind.Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-86091330867988062562011-09-17T19:38:49.707-05:002011-09-17T19:38:49.707-05:00Nancy, This is such a sad story of your brother...Nancy, This is such a sad story of your brother's loss and then, your loss of him. As Teresa said, it is sadly a common story and we all should be, or are, very mad about what is happening to our country and our loved ones. Thank you for sharing this story with us.Rubye Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02511953177053448513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-23610110998516928282011-09-17T19:31:43.068-05:002011-09-17T19:31:43.068-05:00This is such a fine tribute to your brother.This is such a fine tribute to your brother.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7002258242339978362.post-63597325069949561032011-09-17T19:13:50.647-05:002011-09-17T19:13:50.647-05:00Introverted people often need an extrovert to help...Introverted people often need an extrovert to help them cope. I wish Bruce had found his, who would have been there when he needed one. But you are telling his story now, and I salute Bruce for all he accomplished. Thanks for the great tribute, Nancy.DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.com